I’ve been told that I don’t like to lose. What does a person say to that? The more you protest the more they say “See! See!” It’s like the guy who charged me with me being defensive, what do you say to that, “No, I’m not”? I just smile and take it. That’s probably a good idea in sports but not such a great strategy when you lose a friend, or a spouse or a child. God never intended for us to suffer in silence with that magnitude of loss. There are some wise and some not so wise things a person can do when facing a major loss in life. Listen in.
Study Questions: 1 Samuel 21
- Look back and describe some of the things you did the last time you faced a major loss. Perhaps you can even retrace what you were thinking and feeling at the time.
- Read I Samuel 21. David was fresh in his loss of a friend, what sorts of things did he do in his raw grief?
- God seems all but absent in the passage, sometimes that’s the case in our grief. Describe your experience of God (or lack of it) during grief you have experienced.
- Read Psalm 34 which parallels this passage, what do you notice about David’s recollections of his time in Gath?